I know a few of you know me from past posts and will know that I have been in search of love since my on and off ex. Well, recently I met the most wonderful guy and I really thought life had turned around for me and I began to see quite possibly why it hadn’t worked out with any of the others. I met him online, he is 39 and had been with his ex wife (although they aren’t officially divorced) for 20 years and they have 3 children. He said straight away that he would love more children and the dream for him would be to get married again and have more kids. He is a successful businessman and could be quite domineering and used to getting what he wants. We really hit it off on our first date and he kept saying how amazing I was and that I was such a great catch, he would never let me go etc. He seemed so smitten and whisked me away for the weekend after only a few weeks of dating. We booked this amazing hotel and he paid for everything (I never saw the final bill, but the hotel was £500 for 2 nights alone and we had dinner and breakfast on top) I kept saying that I didn’t expect this and didn’t want him to spend that sort of money, but he just kept saying that he had not met anyone like me and he wanted to take me away to somewhere really special as we’d both been through a really tough time. The one thing that did make me think, but I didn’t react to it at the time, as ‘love is blind’ so they say, is that I mentioned something and he turned around and said ‘Don’t f**king argue with me’. I wasn’t even arguing with him and just made a passing comment.

After that weekend, things just kept getting better and he was mentioning booking somewhere for his 40th in July and could I research things and send him some hotels over etc. He kept saying how much he missed me and everytime we were together he would say that it couldn’t wait till XXX to see me as it was too long. He was due to move into a new place in March and kept asking whether I would come over and spend time with him there and decorate the place for him and make it homely.

Then this weekend just gone, everything changed….we had an amazing evening on Friday and he was saying that he wanted to meet my parents (especially my Dad) Saturday evening as he was planning on sticking around for a long time, we had a great night and I remember feeling the happiest I have ever in a long time. He was also mentioning Mexico and we went to an Italian restaurant and he was saying that we have to go to Italy together. Then on Saturday morning his little boy phoned him and asked what time he was picking him up. He said that it wasn’t today and he had originally planned to take his little boy to Rugby on Sunday and then see me in the afternoon.
He went downstairs to talk to him and I could hear most of it, but he just said that tomorrow he would take him out for pancakes and play Fifa with him after Rugby (which I assumed meant he wouldn’t see me) When he came back upstairs I said that if his little boy was upset that I really didn’t mind if he wanted to go and see him there and then, but he said that was really sweet of me, but he would see him tomorrow.

I guess I was a little quiet after that as I wasn’t going to see him for ages, but I wasn’t moody or anything. We went for breakfast and attempted to go into town, but the tube was shut, so all in all, my day was going from bad to worse. We went back to his and just watched weird stuff he put on TV and said that I didn’t seem myself. I just said that I was bit anxious about things and that I really liked him (which I know I shouldn’t have said, but he was saying very intense stuff too) and that I was worried whether I would ever match up to his ex wife. I also said that I was a bit upset that I would have to spend Valentines alone and then he closed his eyes and took a deep breath (as if he was annoyed) and said ‘So this is what it’s all about’ I said that I was happy for him to see his son, but I wasn’t going to see him for over a week (as he is in San Fran on business until Friday ) and then he has his kids all weekend) so I thought seeing him for a few hours as originally planned would be nice. I asked if he wanted me to go as he seemed cold and kept going out for a cigarette and leaving me in the house and he said that he needed to be alone for a few hours and that we can start a fresh that evening. He said he would text me when he was leaving (I got a bit upset as I knew I wouldn’t see him again and I know I shouldn’t have) and so I drove home crying. Sure enough, I got a text a few hours later saying ‘Sweetheart, I was a little put off by what happened today and so I’m going to have a quiet night at home. Hope you understand and that I don’t want to fight or upset you’ I just replied saying that I understood and then (stupidly) asked if he wanted it to be over? Also apologised for being like I was and wished I’d never said anything. He then ignored those texts and didn’t speak to me all evening and Valentine’s day. Finally he text me on Monday just to say “I’m really sorry, but I just don’t think we are right for each other. You’re a great person and obviously very beautiful and I’m really sorry things didn’t work out”

I really didn’t feel that one conversation would put him off, especially after what he was saying to me, but I guess I was all wrong. I wish I had just kept my mouth shut. I feel so lost now and I don’t think I will ever find anyone like him again. Everytime, this seems to happen to me, so I think it’s me and that I should just give up.

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