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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I've wondered all this time if therapy is inherently flawed for people with childhood trauma... i.e. people whose core issue is feeling unloved. Therapy has helped me realize that is my core issue, I feel unloved, unwanted, unworthy, and I'm sure it goes back to feelings I had as a child. Therapy has helped me realize this, but it doesn't solve anything, in fact it's like salt in a wound because you're primed to fall in love with a therapist who often won't even give you a hug let alone ever say I love you back. It is yet one more one-way relationship of you loving a person who doesn't really care all that much about you, with the only difference being your therapist is hopefully a lot less abusive.
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No its not. I was abandoned and neglected and therapy had helped me understand that it wasn't I that was unloveable, it was people in my life that were incapable is love.
The caring from T has changed that inner message.
Therapist doesn't have to be all hugs and kisses and sworn declarations of mature love. It just has to contain a skilled T and a client whose willing and able to think.