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Originally Posted by Pastel Kitten
I've tried reasoning with it by saying things out loud to myself like "It's ok. He's just busy at work and he'll reply to me when he can" but the panic still consumes me regardless of any logical thought. I know that people aren't available 24/7 and I absolutely hate this dependency issue but I've had this for my entire life, actually. I even recall similar situations when I was 7 years old, like when my mom was out at the grocery store a bit later than I expected her to be and had a major breakdown on par with what I'm describing here, crying to my dad that my mom must have died (only for her to return perfectly safe, of course.)
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You're not alone, sweetie. Reasoning with such feelings when they're running high doesn't help me feel better, either. (And I hate when I tell the person in question my feelings and they just try to logic me out of them. I want to say, "Do you want me to punch you now, or wait until you finish your sentence?" Not that I really would punch someone anymore, but you get the drift.) I've been doing just that recently, actually, worrying about abandonment. All I can do at those times is try to practice distress tolerance, ride it out.