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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
I've wondered all this time if therapy is inherently flawed for people with childhood trauma... i.e. people whose core issue is feeling unloved. Therapy has helped me realize that is my core issue, I feel unloved, unwanted, unworthy, and I'm sure it goes back to feelings I had as a child. Therapy has helped me realize this, but it doesn't solve anything, in fact it's like salt in a wound because you're primed to fall in love with a therapist who often won't even give you a hug let alone ever say I love you back. It is yet one more one-way relationship of you loving a person who doesn't really care all that much about you, with the only difference being your therapist is hopefully a lot less abusive.
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I am with you all the way. I ended up with unrequited obsessive love for my last main T. It solved nothing. On the contrary all the wounds were deepened and new wounds created. If I was uncertain about my worthlessness or hopelessness previously, this experience nailed it shut. It was a trap, and a cruel practical joke. She provoked all the deepest longings, seduced and encouraged me, but the outcome was always going to be a frustration of those longings. Then she bolted when it became overwhelming, thereby confirming I am beyond help. It was abuse, really. But because it was performed with a kinda and caring face, it seems otherwise.
For me the question is not whether it is merely flawed, but whether it fundamentally lacks legitimacy, given that it seems to injure with some regularity those who can least afford to be injured.