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Originally Posted by Petra5ed
In a lot of ways, I think for people like me, it is actually re-traumatizing. It seems morally questionable to take a vulnerable and desperate person and get them "hooked" on feeling cared about by putting on an act. I didn't know this is what it was when I started! All I knew is I had a very rough childhood and was very depressed, and therapy is supposed to be what people do to fix that. Stupidly I took his seeming to care on face value, it didn't occur to me that was part of the treatment plan for him to feign interest in me.
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I think this is crucial. The client has no way to know the authenticity of what is coming at them. If you have huge deficits from childhood, then indeed you can be hooked and not be able to discern to what extent it is an act nor whether things are heading for disaster. I have often compared my last therapy to the experience of getting hooked on some powerful drug. It felt great at the time, but it was palliative not curative. And then the abrupt termination caused a massive withdrawal nightmare. What a dangerous game.