Yes he's offered referrals, and when he did it hurt me, lol! Is he trying to pass me off on someone? No, I don't think a technique will help. I've read a lot about this, and everything I read says love helps. But not just any love can do either, I have to love him back, or I need to find someone like him in real life. Not that I need to be some codependent clinging thing, I just need to know what it feels like to feel securely attached, to feel that way. How can I get rid of insecurity without expericing security? How can you feel secure when there's all this mystery around what's real and what's your therapist just blowing smoke at you to make you feel better. That's my gut feeling at least.