The same author has an updated book called "Sometimes I Act Crazy."

I read "I Hate You..." when I was newly diagnosed at age 18 and hated it. It really made me angry and made me think that no one would ever want to have any sort of relationship with me, if I were BPD. The depictions and descriptions of people with BPD were one-dimensional and that dimension was pretty awful. It did not help me and was one factor in my rejecting the diagnosis, and running from it, and not seeking help for the next twenty years.

However, my current therapist recommended "Sometimes I Act Crazy" and I can definitely recommend that book. The author still refers to people with BPD as "borderlines," rather than "people with Borderline Personality Disorder," and he shows several biases throughout the book...but it is a much more nuanced discussion of the disorder and I did find it helpful. It triggered a few "You're an idiot" reactions toward the author--for one, bisexuality being a sign of BPD--but those did not detract from the overall usefulness of the book.

Just my experiences.