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Old Feb 19, 2016, 07:00 AM
Stellaclaire Stellaclaire is offline
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Originally Posted by LostIntrovert View Post
I find that I tend to criticize myself relentlessly, and I think I mostly do it as a defense mechanism to protect myself from the criticisms and rejections of others. The reason I think it’s a defense mechanism is because of the anxiety I feel whenever a therapist tries to work with me on toning down my inner critic. I feel like I have to anticipate anything other people might say and set the bar for myself as low as possible, because I know I am likely to crumble if I encounter any significant criticism or disappointment or rejection that I haven’t gone over several times beforehand in my mind.

Anyone else do this?
Yes, constantly, and for the same reasons. And she tells me that I'm unbelievably harsh on myself when she reads my thought log, and I don't even really know how to say that that's just the tip of the iceberg and that I can only bring myself to write down the comparatively mild ones.