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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
I know, you've read a lot about therapy. I thought that the books and stuff that I've read do explain how therapy is supposed to work. I'm surprised at you saying that it is not explained. Is it that you just don't buy it? (I hope that's not a British phrase that isn't understood over the pond).
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In reading their text books - the theory seems to go to blame the client but it is in practice I find the most obfuscation -
(therapist tells me some completely unsolicited thing about themselves)
Me: why did you tell me that? What are you trying to get at?
Therapist: I don't know - I just did
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Me: Is there any structure or plan going on here
Therapist: I have a plan
Me: What is it
Therapist: I can't explain it to you
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Therapist: That seems like what a lot of people would feel.
Me: what is the point of what you just said? I was not saying I was the only person on the planet to feel X. I am not worried about whether it is usual or not.
Therapist: I don't know
Me: Then why did you say it?
Therapist: If you don't know, I can't explain it
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(therapist says something like "you are a good attorney" or "you are X" out of the blue)
Me: how would you possibly think you know such a thing? Why do you think I would care what you think about X?
Therapist: I just guess you would be X
Me: But what difference is it supposed to make to me what you think about it? Particularly when you don't know it.
Therapist: I don't know
And so then I tell the woman to quit talking at all since it makes no sense, she has no purpose, and I don't find it useful
sort of thing