I soooo understand and that is why I find your posts so interesting to read because you are probably about as opposite as I am in many, many ways and especially in the most successful methodology for us. It is in part to your posts over the years that I have been able to work past some of the 'mishaps' with my t when I have thought he should have 'gotten' it, or should be doing something else, or missed the boat completely. I have actually thought about how hard it would be for him if he was trying to work what is best for me in one session and you were to walk in the following seeding with needs and wants that were completely opposite of what he had just dealt with regarding me. It must be A therapeutic roller coaster for therapists to determine what is the best help for each client. If it were only as easy as asking the client and then taking direct answer, it might be much easier. I can testify that had my t done that method with me in the beginning we would not be where we are today. So, maybe not for everybody, but many of us, would be and are demanding and wanting the exact opposite of what is in our long-term best interest.

Wow, can you imagine the internal struggle that a truly caring therapist goes through in trying to best help the client even and when it appears to go against that clients outward claims. I wonder if this has much to do with the problems that exist today with the way psychotherapy is viewed. I am sure there are many therapist out there that simply do what is easiest for themselves, or use there status to meet their own needs regardless of the client's needs, and there are simply bad therapist also; but I wonder how many are truly trying to do what they feel is in the best interest of the client and because we are all so different, they make mistakes like the rest of us that ultimately become detrimental because of our already fragile states. I don't know, just how my crazy brain works.