Hey Artsyskeleton! I am sorry you feel that way. "Trans enough" does not exist but, unfortunately, society thinks it does. Trans individuals have to prove themselves constantly just to be taken seriously, and that shouldn't be the case. Being able to pass can help a transperson feel more comfortable with themselves, but the way other people see us may be totally different. For example, I look the mirror and see a nonbinary person. Not a woman, not a man, but just a person. However, just this week someone told me that I am feminine and that made me quite upset because that is not how I want to present. I am still trying to figure out how to deal with this.

I think that it's rude that people do not ask you for your preferred pronouns. It does not matter how you present or what you look like. They should be asking for your preferred pronouns and names regardless, so I would speak up about that. But I am very sorry you're going through this. I wish you all the best!