Dear Sinking, I wonder if wanting your Mommy is wanting that feeling of safety and security that nothing bad will happen with our mom there, and the reason having her there is not enough to keep you from crying, is that you long for that trust and security, but it doesn't come from a PERSON, it comes from being naive, and trusting that nothing bad can happen to you WHEN your mom is near. Maybe being hospitalized somehow made you long for that safe feeling, and you can't seem to recapture it because you are no longer a child.

When I get sick, or hurt, I always want my mom. I am 48 years old. My mom is a good person and I love her very much, but she is not the ideal I imagine when I long for her when I am sick or sad. It is the FEELING I used to have when she would smooth my brow with a cool washrag, or bring me chicken noodle soup, and the feeling of being loved. I get it now when my husband comes home with my water bottles or my medicine when I am sick, or rubs my back. It is that warm comforting feeling of being ca red for.