I personally feel that as a woman it is my job to care for my fiance and when we have kids the kids too. I work about 8 hours more than my fiance every week but I don't feel he should have to do any chores unless he chooses to. I don't see this as your husband being a control freak I see this as him saying he wants more traditional gender roles in the house which I feel every man has a right to demand that. Women can work but I feel as a women we have a duty to our SO and kids to be the care taker first our work outside the home is secondary. Sorry if that is harsh just my belief.