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Old Feb 20, 2016, 04:20 PM
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Originally Posted by naia View Post
I'm citing research because I was asked where I was getting numbers, not because I'm saying it is gospel. I'm answering a question that was asked.

I also did not say that attachment should be the focus. I clearly said that if that were the focus, it's an important issue to take up.

I never advocated for one kind of therapy over another, certainly not CBT, which I really don't like. It's all backwards. Emotions come first; thoughts come later. To say you can think your way out of depression makes no sense to me. And it seems to do harm because it essentially blames the person for thinking wrong when there are a lot of reasons why someone could be depressed.

But I'm tired now. I seem to post to correct misperceptions, which is not the purpose of this whole thing. I didn't come here to argue or have to defend myself. I came here for support and to support others. I have really serious things going on. I just can't continue to have abstract arguments when I'm being misinterpreted left and right. Sorry.
I think people are reacting because you are saying things like "there are universals in therapy" or "attachment is another universal." It comes across as dogmatic. Universal refers to things everyone experiences; it doesn't mean the same as absolute in a philosophical sense, true, but it's still hard to say anything in therapy is a universal. E.g., some people don't experience attachment in therapy, nor do they want to, so how can it be a universal?

Support is best given and received if it doesn't sound dogmatic. Just make it clear that you're speaking from your own experience.
Thanks for this!
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