Then you've been listening to idiots. I have three and if you at least attempt to do it right, they are work at all stages, but especially so when they are infants.

In my view, people get to have families in the way they want to have them or when they want to have them, and nobody needs to inform anyone (boss, coworker, or clients) that they plan or are having a baby or otherwise are expanding their family. Thinking that you have the right to be informed about whether or if your T is having a baby or plans to seems right on the edge of the kind of relentless entitlement that can drive anyone crazy. I'm not saying that you believe this or are relentlessly entitled, but IMO no one has to tell anyone about their family planning (or lack thereof.