Okay, so I'm a horrible person now? And I'm "stunted in sexual development"? Is that supposed to make me feel less ashamed and worthless about being a virgin? How exactly am I sexually "stunted"? How could you say such a thing to me, when I'm already suffering from these thoughts? Please explain. And also explain why saying she's "better at relationships" than me is supposed to make me not feel worse.

I have a really hard time believing that you could not fathom siblings making fun of siblings for their "faults". School kids make fun of each other all the time for not having enough sex or sooner, and siblings are even worse. I also thought she would get really angry and yell at me in front of her friend when she found the broken bottle, and that her friend would also stop liking me because of the whole ugly situation. It seems that everything about your post is designed to distance all understanding and sympathy from me, acting like I'm an alien. I do not understand how your comment is supportive or helpful in the slightest.

It's not just shame over being virgin, it's shame over my YOUNGER SISTER, who I feel like I'm supposed to be more mature than since I'm older, has had more sexual/relationship experience than me. And she rubbed it in my face the other day by that Adele remark.

And please, to the other two, explain to me what about my comments makes me "immature". I know my whole post sounds like a hysterical, immature 13 year old girl and I'm not exactly proud of it, which is why I posted it in all its ugly glory here anonymously, expecting kindness and understanding, and I know it's not right to think any of these thoughts, but please explain, point by point, what I said that was "immature", and why. Humor me.

Your responses are really not making me feel better. I am not a horrible person. I did not TRY to make her feel bad. I did not realize that bringing up the subject of past abuse would make things worse for her. I am not knowledgeable in that area. And I can't believe I'm now defending myself against personal attacks on my character when I posted this in the first place for help and support.

Do I deserve to feel bad about myself? Do I deserve to feel like an attacker and monster? Do I deserve to feel stupid? Well, luckily I've begun to feel better on my own before I read these responses, while focusing on other things.

Do I need to apologize to her? Or will bringing it up AGAIN only make her worse? What do you suppose I do, other than spend money I don't have on therapy?