Rhapsody, I'm so sorry you have so much loneliness in your marriage. ((((hugs))))

Do you know your husband is emotionally unavailable because he "just is" or is he doing it deliberately to hurt you? Emotional withholding is a form of abuse. I know, because I am in a marriage like that. My husband does it deliberately to harm me. It hurts. I am getting out. I'm not saying that is your situation, but just consider that question, "is he doing it to hurt you?" I hope the answer is no.

Have you spoken to your husband about your dissatisfaction? If he wishes to improve the relationship, you and he could go to couples counseling. If both of you have a sincere desire to become better partners to each other, and if you get a great therapist, you could make some real gains.

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What I really want is to be loved and to have some one in my life / heart that does not make me cry or leave me feeling empty - I really do not want a divorce, separation or and an affair - I want my husband to be able to give that to me and yet he holds back due to his own inner emotional fears.

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(((hugs))) That really tore at my heartstrings. Have you told your husband that this is what you are longing for? Could it be he doesn't know?

Even if he doesn't want to go to counseling at this time, you could also benefit by going on your own and getting help on this issue.

Take care,
sunny