About a month ago I had a crisis, so out of control, had been building for a time...when it counted, my husband stepped up, s l o w l e y. He has a hard time understanding my everyday shifting situation and moods, because he's very steady, and he's just short on empathy. So, I have to be the broken record, this is what I need, this is what I need, and our daughters remind him, too. This partnership takes work. We've been married 38 years.