let me just say before i say something that could probably (and just might) put my foot in my mouth i didnt read the whole thing...

i just noticed sunrise saying that if he is doing it deliberately that its abuse..i totally agree....if he isnt doing it on purpose this is where my original thoughts come in....
im sure you heard of the book Men are from Mars Women are from venus...i love it...i think it hits alot of key points...especailly in communication...and if you havent read it...go get it...it should be cheap and has great advice...men have a totally different way of communicating...and in my opinion...really no way at all...while we women can sit down and engage in long deep conversations i try to engage a deep convo with my bf and he looks at me like ok...your telling me this for a reason ..whats the point...and then he goes around in circles trying to figure out how to handle it ...when all i want to do is talk...try to figure out and differeniate between your husband being emotionally abusive ...and being...a man...no offense to guys...they just have a totally different way of doing things...i actually heard this story one time and it makes soooo much sense to me ...well does to me anyway...

there was this husband and wife...and in events the husband never really cried to his wife...she saw him tear up....but nothing..heart wrentching...and she was the one always crying...and one day the woman said...please ...let me have a husband that is sensitive and caring....one that isnt afraid to show emotion....well she woke up...and as she went down into the kitchen she realized she got her wish....he was sitting there....sobbing his eyes out...she was so gut wrentched that she went over to him and asked what was wrong....and hugged him and he told her he killed a beatle in his dreams and it was terrible...days went on...and every day he wanted to talk and cry and be with her ...and one day she recieved bad news about a cousin in another state...and she was crying....and she needed her husband...her strong husband to take her in his arms and just hold her...she went to him...and all he could do was cry and she had to hold him...and she realized...i want my husband back...i need him...i cant handle this....i need someone to be strong for me and hold me...

so see...men have their own ways ...maybe not having deep conversations...but they have their own ways of supporting us and keeping us together...and thats why there is more than one woman...because its the women you talk to for advice...lol we understand....we have good communication...sometimes lol...but then again i dont know your situation...it oculd be a totally abusive one....or one that he just doesnt find talking all that...thrilling lol unless its baseball or football and stuff...good luck and sorry if i am way off the line....like i said i didnt read the whole thing.
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