Aviza, I hear you clearly. I can tell by your post that you are a very kind hearted loving person. Sometimes there are people in this world that see that in us and unknowingly use our kindness to their advantage. When we get hurt from their acts and we stand up to them then the hatred from them comes out, the blame to you from them, the hurtful words, perhaps even lies to friends and family so they receive support and you look bad in the other's person eye. These things these people do are not about you, it is a reflection of who they are and what you see is what they are capable of. I have run into this my whole life. My counselor told me it is my compassion for others that has got me into trouble in relationships. We have think know how good we are in our hearts and not let others make us doubt our thought process. You have to tell yourself you are a good person and you do not deserve this kind of treatment. You have to place boundaries with these people and in many cases, let these people go, disconnect from those who treat you poorly, even if that means family.