It's not about feeling I'm not a priority. I know I'm not a priority for her. I'm work. There would be something wrong with her if she would think work is more important to family. I do want her to find me important, but as a client and a little bit more important as her other clients.
It's just that I think my T didn't think this through. I don't said she should tell clients she's planning on getting pregnant, just that with clients she know are going to have long treatment, she could have mentioned she will be teaking a long break in the upcoming year. She doesn't need to tell the reason. And yes, there can happen things that are unpredictable like sickness or death, but I'm not talking about that.

A T is something else than a dentist or a hairdresser. With a T you get really personal. That's not easy for most people. Lots of clients need consistency in therapy. If you want to become a T, you should know you can't just take lots of time of, unless you inform your clients from the start, then they can make a choice if that's ok for them.

btw; I'm not jealous on the new person. I do get jealous on her other clients sometimes, but not on her kid or something. I only want my T as a T, I don't want her to be my mum or sister.

And I was an idiot for not asking if there was a possibility she would be away for a long time. There were a few things said that made me think she wouldn't get pregnant in that year.

And maybe lots of clients don't have any issue with changing T's, but some have. I have. I don't open up easily. I don't trust easily. And I definitely don't trust T's. I've had some bad/unusefull T's, so I know it's very hard to find a good T. And building a relationship/trust with a new T takes lots of time, for me at least. And I've some things coming up in the months after T leaves. And eventhough I will have a T, it will be hard to get through it because I don't know anything about that T. And I don't really have much support outside therapy.

But let's keep it at this. Some will disagree, some will agree and others will see something in both. This is just my opinion and that won't change.