We are exact opposites with the perfectionism. While I choose to only do things I do well, and can't bear to do things I don't want to do (the ADHD), I am completely fine with mediocrity and falling on my face.

We have the deceased father in common. I felt so much warmth come over me when you said how he did so much with you. Mine was so completely withdrawn, I wasn't even in his scope. He was an incredibly great guy, but his spirit broken. Movie star handsome. Although I knew he didn't really love me, I forgave him because I knew he was sick.

And yes, I gave it up or went out with whoever was interested in me, too. I didn't even that badly about the rape at the time, was confused if it even was rape, then became promiscuous. But serious boyfriends since college.

I am so glad to find someone with this same relationship thing in common!

I also think I have Relationship OCD. I can't stop obsessing over the one guy who I loved, but didn't really love me. A ten year on off crazy fling.