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Originally Posted by lostinsidemyself
Certianly not "clear cut" at all. I have BPD, PTSD, GAD & possible but not diagnosed Attatch Disorder; with all that, one would think I lack empathy (if I did, I wouldnt do my job as well as I do) but its the opposite; not only do I have the complete ability to put myself in other's shoes (what empathy is...instead of sympathy) but I also care WAY more for others than I do myself; to my determent and generally end up a doormat and easy to manupulate for those that pick up on the fact that I will drop everything and help someone or feel bad enough for someone to let them completely run over me. Thats happened time amd time again and only now at the age of 35 (in April) learning how to set boundries so that I am not a doormat whom will go to the end of the earth for someone no matter how much it hurts me.
And being in the BPD area of the forum, I see time and time again BPDers having very passoniate empathy for others hurting here.
Therefore my BPD has no effect on my empathy at all, nor have I seen that here from anyone else.
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It's the same with me. I've always been easily manipulated by people because I care too much. I was even once coerced into doing things I didn't really want to do by an ex of mine, all because he tried convincing me that he really loved me and needed me again in his life, even though he'd dumped me a year before that and told everyone I was crazy. I didn't end up dating him again in the end, so he got really angry at me and started saying "but you're mature now! why couldn't you have been mature when we dated?" and I was made to feel bad as a result. Even though I knew I had done the right thing in denying his last request, I felt really awful because I knew he had a really hard life and was going through so many things, so the thought kept appearing in my head "Just be with him again. He needs you. He's told you so many times how much he needs you." Ugh.