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Originally Posted by Chummy
I don't said she should tell clients she's planning on getting pregnant, just that with clients she know are going to have long treatment, she could have mentioned she will be teaking a long break in the upcoming year. She doesn't need to tell the reason. And yes, there can happen things that are unpredictable like sickness or death, but I'm not talking about that.
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But why would she have to tell you this? If she's not pregnant when you start with her, she doesn't have any real idea if she'll even get pregnant in the next year much less have a baby in the next year. You are asking her to predict the rather unpredictable. If she said I "might" have to take a long break in the next year, that isn't decisive. Should she lose potential clients on the chance that she "might" have to take time off? What if she didn't get pregnant? What if she changed her mind?
Coincidentally at church today a couple shared their story. They had two children and decided to try for a third. First two pregnancies happened easily and without trouble. This third time didn't work out that way. They went through 4 miscarriages over a period of three years before they even held a pregnancy. Then, when she finally did get pregnant and didn't miscarry, she was diagnosed with placenta previa at about 19 weeks. They had to deliver the baby extremely premature. The mother nearly died in childbirth. They baby was in the NICU for 5 months, went through multiple surgeries, and didn't come home for nearly a year. If this woman was a therapist and had told clients, I might need to take a few months off when she first decided to even try having a 3rd pregnancy, that would have been years of lost time as it wasn't until almost 4 years later that she even got pregnant. So, perhaps she would have waited until she did get pregnant. Great, but even then she had no way of knowing she would be unable to even make it through her pregnancy full-term and would have to completely stop working to care for a very ill child.
Your therapist did only what she could realistically do with any certainty. She let clients know when SHE knew she was pregnant and that the pregnancy was viable. That's the best she could really do with any accuracy.