Nobody has any "right" to demand anything of me.


Or anyone for that matter. So lets just get that myth out the way.


Ask nicely? sure, discuss a possible compromise? Sure.


Demand?


Hell no! Middle finger to you hubby, fiance or bf, and a swift kick out the door on your butt with my combat boots.


To the OP, your hubby does sound like a jerk, old fashioned gender roles or no.


My mom never worked a day after marrying my dad, they agreed to that because he worked away from home. Sure they had a "traditional" marriage, (they're 1940's babies) but my father never demanded jackshit from her.


He even helped with the cooking, cleaning and voluntarily looked after all 4 older kids while she had her girls night out to let her hair down and have a break.


Sounds like your husband needs a lesson in manners and respect for his wife or a swift kick in the behind.