I find it addictive. There are ways in which it's helpful and I think (sometimes I merely hope) those ways are more adaptive than the ways that substances are helpful. I have gotten attached now to several different therapists in a pattern that is common to all of them.
It feels good for a time but also makes me feel sick about myself. I don't think I'd starve to pay for therapy but I'd give up a lot. I feel needy and a little obsessed and often have an unshutupable internal running monologue of things that I imagine telling my T. I feel a sense of relief at seeing her, feel like I can't see her enough, and would jump through any number of logistical and financial hoops to get a little more time with her.
Generally it's the needy feelings that have made me feel sick about myself. Other times the content is the main source of the sick feeling. I think "addiction" is fairly apt here for describing something you can't stop doing even if you feel icky about it, even if you're overspending, because the fleeting relief it offers is so incredibly powerful.
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