Zelev, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Three years is insane.

You say you have a settlement. If so, what is holding up the divorce? Is it the custody/parenting plan?

I am in the early procedural phases of divorce so am not that knowledgeable yet. I thought the two main things to agree on are the property settlement and the parenting plan. Once those are done, can you then sign the final papers?

Also, unless your divorce is final, is there a settlement that can be inforced legally? So is your ex legally obliged to pay you child support and so on if the divorce is not final? (Or do you have a temporary settlement?)

I would put my head together with my lawyer and get some good legal advice. What is holding up signing the final divorce papers? And maybe the lawyer can have your ex's wages garnished, as ECHOES suggested.

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Summer's here and my ex couldn't take our son for the entire month but wanted me to drop him off on demand.

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The parenting plans I have looked often specify that when there is transfer of the child from one parent to another, the "receiving" parent, does the picking up. That way the receiving parent doesn't have to depend on the relinquishing parent and can avoid problems like you are having. If your ex can't be bothered to pick up his son, then I guess he really doesn't want to spend time with him?

Have you and your ex ever been to co-parenting counseling?

I'm guessing you've probably thought of everything I've suggested, since you've been at this for 3 years. I am so sorry you are going through h*ll with this. Hang in there.