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Originally Posted by stopdog
I think there are some differences amongst people here and why therapy was started, why it was continued and how important it was viewed. I went as a sort of last resort for something I found annoying. My life basically worked okay and I have no serious issues that sent me to a therapist. I did not go because my whole life was in disarray or jeopardy. I keep doing it more as a curiosity or hobby that fascinates and frustrates me. Which is a very different stance from someone who has used it or needed it as something much more serious.
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Hi SD and gang. It's been a while, well a really long time! I also keep doing therapy partly as "curiosity." It is like a saga, a mini series that I follow and I am one of the major characters, though the people in my life that I'm struggling with also have parts and then there is the therapist, who plays a leading role, often as an antagonist.
What has CHANGED is that for the first time in many years, I have a therapist who I can trust. She doesn't add to the drama. She helps me problem solve about real-world problems. I have never had this positive, healthy, functional and PRODUCTIVE relationship with a T. I had concluded that therapy was inherently flawed and resigned myself to this being the case.
This time around, I have made lasting positive change in my inner world and outer life.
Prior to this, I thought of therapy as a tragic re-wounding at worst, and an expensive shell game at best. I've had "decent" therapists who provided a safe and confidential place to vent but not much more. I've raised my expectations WAY WAY up and now will not settle for anything less than measurable improvement in my functioning through working closely with the right therapist.
Life is just to short to settle. I probably fired ten of them before I found one who worked.