Hey Silver, I am learning that for me it's about not giving away my personal power. The parents can't take my power anymore and they are way to old to hurt me. I can stop trying to please them. It isn't going to happen. So the choices are I can be true yo myself and have no contact or I can be true to myself and have contact with very strong boundaries. It's more difficult when you are younger. It took ne a long time to figure this out. Hope this helps.