I don't think anyone can completely "get" what any individual went through. Even members of the same family often don't "get" what other members of that family went through even though they experienced the same family dynamic.

I think my therapists DID "get" how much I was suffering and struggling because of my experience and abuse. They could see that. They were constant witness to that. They validated my pain and struggle and helped me get through it and move beyond it. I think that is honestly about all a therapist can do.