Deb, I think back pain can be triggered by stress and then the muscles take over. The first thing I would do is have a conversation with your doc about how you are feeling, both medically and emotionally. Sounds like you have had a very tough time and i am sorry for that. You don't have to be alone either. You may have depression which is causing you to alientate yourself from other people. Go speak with your doc and get a referral for a therapist to help you work through all of this.