This is something I've just recently realized. I'm early 40's and had a mean, abusive dad. The old school, ex-war veteran dad who never drank or smoked or was religious or a woman chaser, but a silent "psycho" type. Anyway, all of a sudden I see how I never got back up by any male members of my family. My dad, a twin, a nephew, and even an older step brother. This is just a question and I'm not heavily analyzing it, but it makes sense for the many reasons why I've had difficulty in life.

So the dad is old now in his 80's, the twin is passive aggressive and too nice and apologetic and the nephew is like my twin- way too nice, scared of things, and anti social. The older step brother is psycho and violent drug user. I'm kind of a little of both but not really violent.

But I realize when they needed my help, I always do it no questions asked. And I respond fast. With these guys, I can ask them a question and it will take asking 5 more times before getting a comatose response of- Nah, I can;t.

Ok, I said too much, but just wondering if any other guys feel the same- that your male relatives disappoint you and let you down and never have your back and even worse and how to cope or strategies to deal with this? I'm around my dad and twin alot these days and it's a new realization and I am feeling f***ing pissed. I'm seriously beginning to fume. I just can't respect them but I don't know what to think about it. Thx