Regarding property settlement - Property is not the same as money. Property values go up and down so your best bet is to define everything with a money value and have money sanctions for every month your ex does not honor the agreement. It sounds harsh but if I had done that I'm positive my divorce would have been much shorter and cheaper.

My ex's wages ARE garnished but here's the problem.

Child support services interpretes our settlement agreement to mean that I have given up my right to collect back support. My ex is no longer satisfied with the final visitation agreement but will not talk with me to make different arrangements. He would rather hold signing the formal judgement over my attorney's head to try and force him to make illegal changes to visitation. My ex calls our child to arrange visitation (9yrs old), often with one day's notice. If I refuse my ex becomes verbally abusive -yelling and cursing at me when I try to find out the details.

My old attorney tried to convince my ex to pay voluntarily to avoid all the legal hassle of forcing him to sell the house. My ex would call my lawyer to argue to change the settlement or visitation, show up at his office and then storm out without signing the final judgement. Each incident with the attorney was promptly billed to me as my ex no longer has a lawyer. I finally got another attorney because this situation was causing my legal debt to skyrocket and my ex clearly was enjoying running it up. Prior to our settlement my ex would show up for court only to ask for a continuance and then show up the next time without an attorney or wouldn't show at all.

Bottom line - My ex wants me to give up all interest in our property legally (quit claim) but leave my name on the mortgage, have all attorney liens removed and those documents recorded and THEN he will sign the formal judgement and pay the settlement. Or course if I do that there's no legal reason for him to pay anything. I would just trust he will keep his word and if he doesn't I'm just S-O-L with a ton of legal bills.

Somehow my behavior is contributing to this. I just feel there must be something I do that make him feel it's okay to keep harrassing me.