I know exactly what you mean. There was one thing in particular I shared. It took most of a session to walk her through it. I had never talked to anyone about it before, outside of those who were involved, and I had carried it around for 19 years. She got it. It was palpable in the room, in her whole being. And her getting it on that level allowed me to discharge it somehow--not sure how else to explain it. And that particular thing lost its power. So I understand the need to have the experience felt and shared on that level because it's almost transformative in a way.

Even though I haven't had that experience with other things, I feel she gets it enough. I recently gave drawing a shot--I had always resisted that. And it has helped communicate and get those things across. Because I agree with you. It matters to me, too. I just don't look for it in terms of her needing to get everything. Not sure if that makes sense.