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Originally Posted by Nickname
Have you thought that may be this is your perception only? I am sure people care, you just need to initiate and be available. Humans usually reciprocate kindness. Humans are not intrinsically kind for no reason or reward as if they were gods or angels. You recognize that you are self-absorbed. Start from that.
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Actually, I found the "people are naturally narcissistic" thing from others. And it makes sense, I just only think about it when it suits me (as in "why would they harass me, they're probably preoccupied with their own things to care that I'm here"). When thinking about it in terms of friendship or romantic relationships, it becomes much more depressing.
Maybe part of it's projection. I'm really bad at being available. I'm almost always available, really, I just don't want to be bothered. I see no benefit. I'm lonely until someone tries to talk to me, then I want to run away and be a hermit. Yeah, it makes no sense.
Was thinking about the "sexual marketplace" concept today, another depressingly stressful iteration of this whole business.