I'm writing a letter for my parents because I think it's about time they knew but I want some opinions on my letter before I send it.

Letter starts here:
I've been keeping a huge secret from you guys, and I think it is about time you all know.

This might come to a shock to you or it might not and you knew all along, or you had some idea about. Anyway, I'm transgender. That doesn't mean that I am a lesbian, which to be honest I used to think only gay and lesbian people were trans, so I can't blame you if you think that as well. I am not attracted to women. It took me awhile to figure this out, which happened around early high school, but I have been dealing with this for years before hand. As a kid, a huge part of me wanted to look like a boy, and I don't think I truly considered myself a girl. Going back to high school, I learned more about the concept of transgender and it just clicked. I wanted to tell you when I found out but I was also worried that I was going through a phase, so I kept putting it off. I made plans to come out but I never did because I wanted to be sure, and I was afraid. Afraid that I was mistaken and of how you'll react. During that time I started using a different name for myself, usually online because I wasn't out at my high school, but I was out to a few friends. I got a binder when we were living in a trailer park and I was so afraid that you guys would see it.
When I applied to Trinity University I told a residential officer about being transgender and she helped me out by having the name on my door be my preferred name, and I think the RA was contacted. I also contacted my roommate, so she already knows and so do her parents. My first day at school was extremely stressful because I was afraid of people calling me my name in front of you both. I wasn’t ready to tell you guys about me.

You may wonder what the future entails for me. Well, I would like to get on testosterone soon but it will still take a while. Surgery is expensive, so I will have to wait on that, and I also want to get a legal name change, which also cost money.

A lot of things cost money.

Please do not blame yourself for this. This was not caused by anything you did, it is just who I am. I am not doing this to harm you, but rather I am doing this because I think you deserve to know the truth.

I love you both,

Your son,