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Originally Posted by Strive4health
My mom has told me my life amounted to nothing, why doesn't my face look nice, I'm getting fat, why does my hair look bad, what good am I to the family if I couldn't give her a grandchild, etc.
She picks on me because she can. Don't all parents believe on some level, they should be able to do these things to their kids? I no longer think about the why. I want to learn how to deal with her and have her words slide off my back.
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I agree. These comments are not nice at all. I asked you the why question because you said she is nicer with others. May be you are passive with her, that she gets the impression that she can continue this way. But confrontation with parents is a bad idea usually. You need to find a way to respond politely to her. Agree with her in a way, and ask her questions about what she means, and what she suggests. The other option is to stay a way from her, which as I sensed is not a viable option for you. You cannot change her by telling her to change. You need to be wise. Do you live with her?