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Originally Posted by Nickname
I agree. These comments are not nice at all. I asked you the why question because you said she is nicer with others. May be you are passive with her, that she gets the impression that she can continue this way. But confrontation with parents is a bad idea usually. You need to find a way to respond politely to her. Agree with her in a way, and ask her questions about what she means, and what she suggests. The other option is to stay a way from her, which as I sensed is not a viable option for you. You cannot change her by telling her to change. You need to be wise. Do you live with her?
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Oh HELL no I don't live wit her, lol. I'm married and living away from her has seriously been one of the best things to happen to me. I've lived away from her before I got married too, and even though life was stressful as a young person living on their own it was way easier than dealing with her.
I'm actually very direct and I'm not afraid of confrontation with her. I've cut off communication with her, but it's not a strategy that seems to work as she continues back into her old ways.
I actually don't ask my mom for suggestions because they usually involve her saying more not nice things. My mom isn't fond of my husband who is a different race and she made a very racist comment about him. She intended her comment to be a suggestion about how my life would be better without him.