Sounds like a personality issue IMO. My H was a nice, intelligent person but he also had an attitude & personality that could come across as a jerk when in came to really interfacing with him on a one to one personal level...he couldn't hide behind that nice, intelligent outer shell that was all people saw until they really had to interface with him & deal with the attitude issues.

Maybe you aren't really coming across to others as nice & intelligent if many other people are having the same problem with you....maybe something to look at with your T though they are very careful about dealing with issues like this.