I am so sorry, Zelev. What a nightmare.

Have you and your ex gone to co-parenting counseling? There he might learn to put the needs of your child first, and quit putting the child between you in order to wreak his vengence on you. The stunts he is pulling are harmful to your child emotionally and psychologically (and bordering on physically).

The violence part is scary. Is it time to discuss a restraining order with your attorney?

What does your attorney recommend doing? (please do not leave your name on that mortgage if you quit claim!)

In my state the property settlement includes all assets, including money.

So you have a settlement agreement? I am confused about how that works and would like to know since it may come in handy for me. Can you make a settlement agreement and have it be enforceable even if you are not divorced?

I am thinking of getting separated before the divorce is final, but have no idea how I can get him to pay me money without the divorce being final. So we continue living in the same house.