Honestly I only visited this board because of a similar issue. I don't think the cause is the same, but the results are equally unhappy. I've got chronic pelvic pain issues that have really been detrimental for us. I have tried everything I can think of, from physical therapy (helped physically, harmed mentally), to reading romance novels (not my style, but I was just seeing if I had any libido left at all - I do), talked to him about trust and his own hygiene, you name it. Nothing helps. It's so bad now that the only man on the planet that I am attracted to (my husband) actually repels me. It's weird. I know it's a fear thing. I just don't know if we are too far gone.

I don't actually have any answers. In fact, I'm downright desperate for help myself. After 6 years of a pretty darn happy sex life with my D.H. that last 2 have been a downward spiral. I kept begging him to have therapy with me. When he finally agreed, it was/is just too late, I think. Its like my PTSD and his fear of hurting me more has destroyed every last vestige of sexual pleasure between us. I am devestated. Anyway, I'll probably start my own thread if I can work up the nerve to put it out there, so i really don't mean to hijack yours. I just wanted to pop in and say that you're not alone in this and see what others have to say.

Also, I keep thinking about that whole starting over idea. But how do you do that? I just don't know. I want to give up, because the fight is just so disheartening. I want to be touched, but then my PTSD kicks in and I dissociate. It's awful. I'm sorry you're going through something like this too.