I don't think it is something you just get over.

Maybe finding relationships or an organized group of people who understand, don't judge, and accept you for who you are can heal those wounds. It has really helped me. Probably don't look to or expect to get it from family.

People who know how to listen without offering a ton of advice and just validate that what you are going through is real and that the wounds you have are very real and causing you problems. Validation of who we are, our problems, and our past is very powerful. People will see very positive things about us that we don't see and will mirror it back to us. This is healing. A therapist can do this but I think we need a support network of people who have walked in our shoes or have similar experiences.