This is a support community. But this is a hard one for me. Hugs and hugs and hugs and get your *** out of there. (So so sorry...)

I don't know what help is available to you as you don't say where you are in the US. But I would like to make sure that you know that none of this is healthy or normal, right?

It is NOT a partnership (that word has a different meaning for every couple, I think, but this is just no kind of good partnership for either of you from the information you are giving us)

I think you know what you have to do. Please take steps to do it. Family, friends...anybody. Just, please. Take a step in a direction that will, ultimately, result in a happier, healthier you.
Get some information together in regards to community property in your state, your rights as a human being (!) and low/no cost ways to get out and get healthy. Reach out to people who can help you.

Please do not excuse any of your, or his, behavior.