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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
This is a support community. But this is a hard one for me. Hugs and hugs and hugs and get your *** out of there. (So so sorry...)
I don't know what help is available to you as you don't say where you are in the US. But I would like to make sure that you know that none of this is healthy or normal, right?
It is NOT a partnership (that word has a different meaning for every couple, I think, but this is just no kind of good partnership for either of you from the information you are giving us)
I think you know what you have to do. Please take steps to do it. Family, friends...anybody. Just, please. Take a step in a direction that will, ultimately, result in a happier, healthier you.
Get some information together in regards to community property in your state, your rights as a human being (!) and low/no cost ways to get out and get healthy. Reach out to people who can help you.
Please do not excuse any of your, or his, behavior.
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Thanks for responding. I do know that this is not a healthy relationship. I'm going to see a counselor soon. I can't call anyone now since he's still at work and he still has my phone, ugh! Jerk! I'm hiding my phone and keys from now on, as well as my walllet! I don't trust him at all.
My friends can't help me like I stated. Most people don't care, or they don't want to get involved. I don't want to scare away my two new friends by telling them this. Maybe I will in the future if I think they won't run fast in the other direction after hearing about this. I only have one good friend who knows how bad he can be. I can't go live with him and his g.f though as he has to take care of his dad who has dementia, and he's finacially strapped now and he also has a few health issues. He'd help me if he could though probably. Maybe one day he can.
I'll talk to a counselor about this and try my best to get him to go. I'll tape record him on the phone again so that he can't B.S anyone about what he said if confronted. I'll have proof to show other people even though I will never be able to use it in a court of law.
It's illegal to tape record people w/o their knowledge no matter what. I live in Ca. So I know this is a 50/50 state. He'll probably try to hide his assets and money. I know very little about our finances aside from what I can find by opening the mail and how much is currently in the checking account. He hides everything from me. He always has.