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Originally Posted by BlueCherokee
... I caught him in a lie, nothing real extreme but it was enough to hurt and disappoint me. ...
His problem is the mistake he made has got him struggling with feelings of unworthiness which is something he's wrestled with all his life, not to mention the trauma from his childhood that made him have too high of expectations and think that everything is on his shoulders, that he couldn't share his burdens with others. ....
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Is his struggle because you caught him lying, and that triggered in him old thoughts of unworthiness? and for how long has this been happening? If it is about this not so extreme "lie" only, may be it can undone, I don't know, but if you talked about this, then may be he needs to see a therapist. Also, you can make him feel worthy not just by words but by other means, too. Like praising him and his actions or job in front of others or something. Just a thought.
