All right I need an opinion:

My boyfriend (whom I'm very in love with) proposed to me last week. He gave me a beautiful ring that had belonged to his grandmother. So it was a family ring. I wondered at the time if that meant that his ex-wife had worn it. I didn't ask, but later he mentioned this: He wanted me to know that because it was a family ring, that did mean that his ex-wife had worn it and given it back to him. He said he had no associations with the ring and his ex-wife -- only with his grandmother. And that it had been returned to him because their love ended and so it was no longer a symbol of that. They are on amicable terms and share a son together (I'm going to be a step-mom!). He said to let him know if it bothered him that it had been hers, and that he would buy me a different ring if it did.

Now with that said: This is a very beautiful ring. I love the style, and I love that it was his grandmother's. I *don't* love that his ex-wife wore it, but it's not like she is a bad person or anything. She is quite kind to me when we meet, and I'm doing my best to be good to her son. I believe that people's past is part of who they are and who they become. And I'm accepting of the fact that he had once promised his life to another woman, and that didn't work out. So should I mind if the ring was once hers?

What do you all think?

Although he would buy me a new ring if I asked, I will say that he's not in the best financial situation right now, and that it'd probably be better to save that kind of money for our future together.

I'm not superstitious, but I do sort of wonder that -- assuming I keep the ring -- I could find someone to do some sort of blessing over it. Maybe some voodoo guy in New Orleans, hah. <- Silly maybe, but is there anyone who does that sort of thing?!

Okay, I'll appreciate hearing an opinion on this one.

This is my first post in years! Life got a little crazy, but a lot of it has been very very good. :-D

Sidony