I have told my H not to ask me if I am ok. That just guarantees I will lose it. Don't hug me or touch me or anything. But that is me. You may not work that way. I have PTSD and touching me when I am dealing with emotions is not good. It becomes more like combative PTSD.

Do you do alright before he asks you are you OK, or do you really REALLY crumble after that?