Hey thanks! I appreciate the input. I'm not totally sure how I feel, but it's good to get feedback.

I definitely wouldn't want it if his ex was some horrible person, but it's not like that. They weren't compatible for the long run, but they do have a child together (of whom they share custody). They don't love one another any more, but they try to be good co-parents.

I hate the thought that a failed marriage would taint the ring that was willed to him from his grandmother. If it had been one that he just bought for his ex with her in mind, I wouldn't want it, but it's not really the same.

I don't know. Thinking about it has me somewhat stressed.

Actually, being engaged has me stressed even though I really believe we are right together. I'm older than a lot of people who get married for the first time (I'm 45!) because I never thought it could work before now.

Thanks, Sidony