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Old Feb 25, 2016, 04:37 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
I agree but I wish it were safe with T. I let her see tears forming but they don't come down.

I don't think so because I don't cry with anyone and I don't have ET for everyone! Wondering if it's because I cried, probably, as a preemie, and in those days, they didn't hold babies in an incubator. I used to always have a fantasy that I'd run around the T's office, she would have to stop me physically, and I'd cry. She would be holding me. I didn't have that fantasy with current T. Maybe I can ask to hold her hand when I think I'm going to cry.

Crying in therapy was very hard for me. I spent many sessions just shutting down so that the tears wouldn't come down. I have cried twice in therapy now. I also don't want to be looked at when I am crying and I ask my T not to look at me just to "be there". What really helped me to cry and helps now to comfort me when I cry is to hold hands with my T.

I hope you can hold your T's hand if you cry.
Thanks for this!
rainbow8