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Originally Posted by velcro003
Rainbow, I am a preemie too (born at 24 weeks in 1981), and my aunt recently sent me an article about how being born very premature has effects into adulthood. It is the magazine The New Scientist (Barnes and Noble has it right now), and it is an interesting article, though most of it I knew. Basically it said that for many preemies, they tend towards introversion (check!), anxiety (check!) and risk-aversiveness (check!). Like you, I wasn't held for the first month I don't think. I mean I was touched by nurses and stuff, but was too small to be held for a long time. When one of my T's first put out that my birth trauma might have a bigger impact on my life as an adult than I think, I got mad. It still makes me mad. This isn't something I can "fix," it just is a stupid unfortunate part of life, and certainly nothing I can remember and maybe get some catharsis on.
OMG, if you were my mom i t would drive me crazy too! haha. I only cry when really depressed, or if my cat is sick.
I think it is called Attachment in Psychotherapy by David Wallin.
Rainbow, I have skimmed it in the past, mostly what I thought fit me (anxious-avoidant).
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I find thus fascinating because I was a preemie AND a twin and I guess I was the quiet twin. There are supposedly "happy" family stories about how I would just entertain myself quietly in my crib for house and hours so my brother needed all the attention. Supposedly I never ever cried so you could just leave me alone for hours....
Then at 3 I was mauled by a dog. I nearly lost my eyes had one whole side of my face ripped up, punctured salivary glands etc so I had all these drains that needed flushing and stuff. It took several adults to hold me down for the flushing and stuff every day for at least a month. Sometime at the end of that period was when my mom tried to drown me for fighting her
I have always wondered how those incidents affected my life.was my mothers complete inability to bond with me related to these things???? She bonded to my brother just fine.
Of course she was nuts and abusive throughout my childhood but my T said what I consider my "normal" childhood experiences like having the wounds flushed was all significantly traumatic which had never ocurred to me